Oblivion

I was told the other day that I don't see things.  What was meant by that was that I am oblivious to stuff that should be pretty obvious, or at least, it was obvious to whoever said it to me.  The comment/accusation came in the middle of an argument of sorts, so I was a bit pumped and emotionally tied into the discussion.  However, this kind of surprised me, as it had come from someone I wasn't really expecting it from.

Anyway, the whole thing got me wondering whether I really am in a state of oblivion.  Am I really that unobservant?  I have been scolded for not seeing stuff before, but sometimes people think they are being obvious or going out of their way to drop conspicuous hints, when really they aren't.  However, the thing about me is that I don't really have a good common sense.

When someone says something, I might misconstrue the meaning of the phrase, taking it in almost a completely other worldly way - a way that most people wouldn't even think of haha.  Being the meticulous person that I am, I listen extremely closely to tone and wording, while paying special attention to body language and the eyes.  In doing this, I am silently analyzing the person I am talking to, taking in what I think their emotions are, measuring their reactions to gain a sense of what they like and dislike, what they care the most about, what bothers them or makes them irritated.  While I'm doing this, I often think a lot harder than most people would, making me see things in a different way a lot of times.

This leads to a lot of misunderstandings I think because I say things subconsciously assuming that they think through things as I do.  Yeah, when I go back and explain what I meant, the person/people often understand exactly what I had been trying to say, but at the time of me actually saying it, people can get confused.

Perhaps, that's why I may seem so oblivious to everyone else.  The way "normal" people communicate is simple; there's not as much analysis, and very little attention to all the details that I take into consideration.  When people say things in that simple way, I tend to look a little deeper, thinking more into it than is needed and overlooking what might be obvious to others.

This is my current theory.  This could also explain how I seem to never get hit on, haha.  Perhaps, I'm just too oblivious to notice haha.  I guess that can be a good thing, especially when I'm in a relationship.